We’re going to be friends.

I have been blogging for 4 months and I must be honest with you – it all began with the wish to build a so-called “platform”. I welcomed the all too popular opinion that a writer should spread the word about their work with open arms and ventured in this beautiful, virtual world called WordPress.

Let’s face it – ‘Building a platform’ is no easy task.

build-It implies a colossal effort but it also means that whatever you do, you will be starting from scratch. And the thought of starting from 0 is terrifying.

The architect in me is tempted to draw an equal sign between building a house and building a platform. After all, isn’t it about laying the foundations of your writing career? Isn’t it about layering brick upon brick until the walls are formed and the space inside is shaped?

I have strived to post 3 times a week but recently, I have come to this conclusion : I don’t engage with you as much as I would like to. We all have responsibilities outside of our blogs. Family, paid work, unpaid work, house chores, life. As bloggers, we also have a duty beyond writing posts – we have to interact.

Let me rephrase that with a more personal approach – I want to engage.

So here is my announcement:

I will only be posting once to twice a week because I want to make more time for you. I want to meet more of you. I want to read your stories and follow your adventures.


And in the spirit of blog friendships, here is a great way to make new friends: the CHERISHED Blogfest in which I took part in July. The blogfest is now over but you can still read all the wonderful entries by clicking here. And here is my cherished object.

The CHERISHED Blogfest was all about making lasting connections, sharing emotions and getting to know each other.

What was it about? Here is a description from Damyanti’s blog:

Often, objects lead us to memories.

The objects we hold most dear, harbor the most cherished memories.

For the CHERISHED Blogfest, we invite you to talk to us about one of your cherished objects. Tell us what it is, post a picture of it if you like, and tell us why you cherish it.

Keep your post to below 500 words. 


Thanks for reading.
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19 responses to “We’re going to be friends.

  1. Building a platform is hard work.
    I agree that the thought of starting from no where was terrifying.
    The worst part, I think is knowing there is tons of other blogs just like mine.


  2. Ellie – I’m so glad you are participating in the Cherished Blogfest. And you discovered the same thing I did about being a blogger – at least half the meaning of doing it comes from interaction with others, and that means getting to know them, not just letting them know you.

    I, too, have found twice a week to be the maximum I can blog and still have time to read the enormous gifts that other bloggers give me – writing, art, photos, global beauty – and best of all, our comments and responses.

    I feel rich beyond words to be this engaged in our blogging community.

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    • You are so, so right. I think I’ve known this for a while but couldn’t bring myself to stop writing this often, despite it clearly stealing my ‘interaction time’ with others.
      Glad we’re now on the same page and I’m excited for the Blogfest! :)

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  3. I’m torn. I began my blog as a repository for photos and memories, no thought of interconnections or even readers. Now I have strong blogging friendships with a number of people, and I spend too much time in the blogosphere, to the detriment of my life and sometimes my in-person friendships. I don’t dare join the blog fest!


    • I completely understand what you’re saying and partly, I can’t help but agree. I have been struggling to find the right balance too but have no regrets.
      At first, I thought I needed this as a writer but now I realise I need is as a person.
      It’s remarkably gratifying to be part of this bloggosphere and humbling too as I haven’t shared my writings with anyone before.


      • And I completely understand that. I’ve made a bundle of good friends – and I would hate to have missed your wonderful mountain pieces. Days just aren’t long enough.


      • Oh you’re sweet. I guess we should work on finding the right middle… I try to set myself a time-frame (I always go over it but at least I have one to pretend it’s there…)


    • I agree. It’s all about making lasting connections and I must admit I’m looking forward to posting less VS. interacting more.
      Enjoy your time away! :)


  4. I’m in! I just signed up. Now I just need to think what my object might be. And remember to write the damn post!


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